These days lots of reality shows come on television on music.... there are singing shows dancing shows and what not on all family channels.... some even are for small children... and gosh... how beautiful these small kids dance or sing... looking at them i silently wish even my children could go there... dance.. sing... and make us proud... if theres one thing that i regret in life is that i cant sing or dance or play a musical instrument... 

mom realised dancing and singing wasn’t for me so she put me in a class to learn harmonium... that time and even now i always wanted to learn to play guitar... i had told mom about it but she wanted to me learn either harmonium or table, both of which i hated... i made so many excuses and refrained from learning either of them.... and later on even mom had to resign from making me learn one of them...
i always try to encourage my children to learn something... something of their choice... i now strongly believe to let children learn what they want to and not what we want them to learn... Ria first went to singing, then bharatnatyam, then kathak... she didn’t like either of them... finally she has now settled in what u can say.... ‘Bollywood dancing’... she likes it and goes to learn it with much enthusiasm...

so piece of advice.... allow ur child to learn what they are interested in and not what u are interested in.... don’t make them have the feeling of regret like i do now have....
still its never too late to learn... planning to learn playing guitar... hopefully i do learn what i always wanted too....

my take on my social acitivites

It was probably 8 yrs ago that i realised that i wanted to help out people... it wasn’t a God sent signal or a spark but over a period of time i realised that there was lot of things that i could probably do to help out others... when i started putting my thoughts into action i realised that it made me feel better... and so the activities went on and on making me feel better and better...
Few days ago around 2 3 ppl advised me that i need to cut down on all these social activities... on being asked for a reason they were like “y waste important time in such things... anyway ppl hardly value free things... u can use that time for something better...”
It got me thinking since it wasn’t a single person telling me that but almost 3 of them... i was like reasoning between 1) y i should continue and 2 ) y i shouldn’t ???.... I first thought about the people i help out... I try to improve someones life in whatever small way i can... Even though it is a ‘small way’ for me i realise that it probably is ‘something big’ for the needy. When i turn back and recollect all the responses from the ppl whom i have helped i realised that i probably stimulated a sense of well being... a sense of hope.... a sense of positiveness in them... and their thanking me or their appreciating my work or the small smile i could install on their faces probably brought happiness in me...
So maybe if u think deep down i might not be doing all these social activities for others but for myself... its what probably makes me happy... the smile on ur face brings a smile on my face too...