a box full of roses....

(Hi Friends, today I would like to share a story with you. I don't remember where I read it but it really touched my heart. Hope you will like it too)

The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy." The man was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, "Don't you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside? The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, "Oh, Daddy, it's not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They're all for you, Daddy."The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness. Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses... from our children, family members, friends, and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than this.

Bro shoots sis...!!!!

Its been noticingly common nowadays to see siblings killing each other…. Its so shockin to hear these things….i mean how can rivallry among siblings go to such an extent tht they can take each others life… is it the power of money and property tht brain washes them to this level… I think its over ambitiousness or dissatisfaction… either of 2 extremes - to have everything and want more or have nothin and want something… self satisfaction, self control and peace of mind with whtever u have are important things which can easily prevet this… it good if u give but its great to give without expecting anythin in return…. Whn u expect returns there arises a chance of dissatisfaction which may act as a fuel to create a fire betn 2 persons…
Then I tried puttin myself in tht persons shoes… would I behave the same if my dad tommorow decides to give everything to my brother or more to him and less to me… hmmm…. I don’t think so…. Personally I believe myself to be satisfied with wht I have… with my education I can earn to satsify my n my families needs… I have learnt not to be over ambitious… even swapna who initially felt it was not good for me to be less ambitious, as she felt u need to dream big to achieve big, is now convinced that the stress got by being over ambitious is not worth the gains… well am not writing this as self praise but then writin this blog has given me immense satisfaction on a personal front… I believe I can have my peace of mind even if such a situation arises….and thts worth all the property and money…

old memories......

Dard main bhi who labh muskura jaate hain,
Beete lamhe jab bhi yad aate hai…

So very true…. Know wht… have u ever remembered some old thing in life esp whn the issue is bout an old crush or somethn like tht…. It sure brings out a smile on ur face or atleast in ur mind..right??? try doin tht…its fun…

Tricks patients play to reduce my fees….

Most common would be “aree rahul you have become so big…. I know your parents since last 20 yrs… you were so small…I used to take you around….your dad is the best doctor around…very considerate and generous…. You also become like him only…” in short you reduce your fee or rather don’t take the consulting charges and become ‘generous’ like dad…
Second trick would be “doctor sahib we are very old patients of your mom… she was the best ophthal around… we used to talk so much everytime we paid a visit to her… she was a family to us…” indicating that I should not take fees as I automatically become a family member…
Third one… “sir am from this area and am either a union member or a very important member of the area…everyone listens to me… after u operate on my mother/father then there are many patients waitin to get operated…ill get all of them here only…” so by showin me the greed of the ‘so called waitin patients I should reduce my surgery charges’… and usually after surgery the person doesn’t show up… maybe he lied or maybe he got angry that I didn’t reduce my charges…reason best known to him…
One fellow I still remember told me that he wanted to show his kids to me and they had stopped wearing spectacles after they broke as they didn’t have money…I felt sad n asked him to get them….n to my surprise whn these ‘poor’ kids entered my clinic they wear wearing the best of clothes…even I wouldn’t have worn such clothes in my childhood…being a little bit angry over myself for getting fooled I told my asst to take only half fees…but still the person disappeared frm that day…maybe angry…

After going home whn I think over all these things it amuses me…brings a smile on my face…and then feel maybe its Gods way of bringing a smile on my face….

Girl child...still a taboo in d 21st century

Its so depressin that still d girl child is considered a taboo even by the ‘so-called’ modern people… and its more depressing whn the mother herself considers it… she herself being a woman… maybe shes influenced by people around but still it really hurts whn the mothers face falls on coming to know that she has delivered a girl child… 2 cases in the last 2 wks I saw in my dads hosp really hurt me… a mother on post operative day refusing to even look at her female child let alone feed her…. The poor child was cryin of hunger… and the other lady saying ‘shee parat mulgich jhali’ on table whn informed tht she had a girl child… and to my surprise the husband wanted a TL(family planning procedure) done inspite of tht whereas the stupid idiot mother refusing it…. Even the next day the mother was in depression…. Just felt like putting a tight rap across her face…. It also puts me to shame whn a doctor colleague a radiologist does sex determination test for some extra money… where has the conscience of these ppl gone??? Don’t they feel the guilt inside while doing it very well knowing that if it turns out to be a female foetus then he would automatically be a party to the resulting killing of the female child… may these people including the sonologist rot in hell….

no name

Well I don’t exactly know wht headin I would give to this post… but it well could have been my last blog… born on 15 aug am a typical leo as most of them say… have that bit of ego in me which ofcourse no one has yet seen as I keep it under wraps… since I have started writin almost everyone has appreciated my writings… they ofcourse reflect a diff side of me as am always ‘not so serious’ in my daily life… but then a very imp person found them ‘not so interesting’ to the extent that even a comment wether good or bad was found unworthy to be given time for… that hurt!!!.. at tht point I thought wether anyone really likes my writings or they just say for the heck of it…. I lost all motivation to write… but then in the coming days I got some really good comments bout the writin and that brought back the inspiration in me… n then givin a thought well I have always found writin good for myself…I feel nice whn I write… n if at all even one person appreciates my writings n looks forward for more then that is good enough a motive for me to write….
So its DECIDED that am gonna write n write….for even that single person who likes it n if there are none then ill become selfish n write for myself!!!!! Hehehehe

how far to go for a frnd???

frndship is a wonderful thing.... its grt to have good frnds.... but then sometimes u wonder how much to do for a frnd...occassionally we tend to go grt places for frnds n then expect them to do the same.... they dont n then u feel bad... ya one can say tht dont expect in frndship but then think frm ur heart .... dont u really wish the person u like would like uwith the same intensity... so everyone tends to have certain expectations which whn not met result in dislike or arguments...n mostly such things if u got by percentage then are common betn frndship which involves a guy n a gal....esp after either of them gets married...betn boys good frnds can n most of time will go very far.... betn girls... hehehe vry rare to c very good frnds... usually some bitchin is involved...no am not discriminatin here...just my observations... maybe am wrong...still... also seen is tht whn u do too much for afrnd of the opp sex then many a times a doubt arises...(mostly its the girl or a frnd of the girl who doubts)....n these silly doubts tend to create problems in the relationship.... no its not tht i am writin this on my personal experience though i wont deny tht i didnt experience such things but recently i metan old frnd on orkut which made me remember some good old days n thts whn i thought bout this....
anyways u just have to learn to ignore all this n go ahead n do d best u can for ur frnd....

The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and ! women with the biggest ideas can be shot down
by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Showcasing death on tv....

Yday after my opd I came home n switched on d tv to catch up some news… all know how these news ppl give captions to their stories…. On aajtak it was ‘aakhri hasi’… I wondered wht it can be especially whn they were showin a person givin a press conference… and suddenly within seconds the man collapsed frm a heart attack while talking… he was dead on the spot… it sent down shivers down my spine… the last expression the person gave was terrifying…. During my whole medicine stint I had not seen a single person die on d spot… so it was just as chillin as for anyone else… n these vultures (news ppl) I call them vultures cos both are similar in some aspects… not that they fly high but they would wait upon a living being to die so that they can take advantage of it…these vultures try to make a story about it… makin a huge story bout it… showin the death in slow motion… showin it in different ways… bloody f…ers… I somehow just wonder how the conscience is absent in these ppl… couple of mths ago a kid fell in a sewer (and died later as his body was not found)…. These vultures came there n asked his mother who was crying inconsolably “aapko kaisa lag raha hai… aapko kya lagta hai kiski galti hai… kya prashasan zimmedar hai?” n some bloody politician commented “I will get justice for her…. Ill ask d govt to resign!!!!” at a time like this, is this wht the mother wanted for consolation????????
Am sorry that I had to use some very mild words in this blog as I thought usage of more very dirty words which I have in my mind for these vultures n politicians would not have been appropriate on this platform…