Saturday, October 20, 2007
Girl child...still a taboo in d 21st century
Its so depressin that still d girl child is considered a taboo even by the ‘so-called’ modern people… and its more depressing whn the mother herself considers it… she herself being a woman… maybe shes influenced by people around but still it really hurts whn the mothers face falls on coming to know that she has delivered a girl child… 2 cases in the last 2 wks I saw in my dads hosp really hurt me… a mother on post operative day refusing to even look at her female child let alone feed her…. The poor child was cryin of hunger… and the other lady saying ‘shee parat mulgich jhali’ on table whn informed tht she had a girl child… and to my surprise the husband wanted a TL(family planning procedure) done inspite of tht whereas the stupid idiot mother refusing it…. Even the next day the mother was in depression…. Just felt like putting a tight rap across her face…. It also puts me to shame whn a doctor colleague a radiologist does sex determination test for some extra money… where has the conscience of these ppl gone??? Don’t they feel the guilt inside while doing it very well knowing that if it turns out to be a female foetus then he would automatically be a party to the resulting killing of the female child… may these people including the sonologist rot in hell….
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I too am the only child of my parents. A girl. Over many years my parents too have faced comments about how unlucky they are to have only a girl. Esp from patients who would come to Dad's hospital. One aaji would go अरे देवा. काय हा आन्याय. किती चांगला माणूस. Once annoyed my mom told someone she had some 8 to 10 kids. That made them happy.
hi rahul
i was in th ot when ami was sectioned... she was a bit knoocked out when karan was delivered...and when she regained a bit of sense she asked me and i told her its a BOY... and her face fell...all along she was so sure she had a girl child in her...
its a different story that the disappointment lasted only till karan was put in her lap...
yes but a girl child is a taboo even today...when will it change
During my school days, i used to believe that bias against the girl child was an overhyped issue, invented by self-appointed activists (like the narmada bachao group which used to make headlines during those days).. Maybe that was because I had never seen such bias in my day-to-day life. 9 out of my 11 first cousins were girls, and no one had any problems.. Girls in school seemed to be doing perfectly fine, often better than the guys..
But when I entered KEM, I began seeing how prevalent the bias is: parents of a young girl with intestinal TB refused to give consent for surgery (free, the minimal cost being sanctioned by the municipal social worker, and with good prognosis), because they had had enough of her..
In the labour ward, often both the mother and the (mostly female) relatives will ask about nothing other than the sex of the child. For some reason, they seem to believe that the female sex is inherently less worthy. Is it because they feel weak? I don't really think so - most of these slum-dwellers are used to a hard life and are perfectly capable of thrashing any man who misbehaves.
I've never witnessed the father's reaction, bcoz they aren't allowed in the labour ward. Also, I don't know what role husbands/fathers have in shaping this behaviour - maybe I can ask someone from the psychiatry dept when i repeat the posting..
I have always wondered why people believe in what they do and what can be done to change it. I somehow feel that there is no way the change can occur for at least a couple of generations ie. till everyone goes to school - no one can be immune from such influence till the whole society is free from it.
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