'free india???'

During a recent visit to my native place I came across an old man probably in his 80s or 90s… a freedom fighter in his days having fought against the british, even going jail…. Playin a part in indias freedom struggle… he had a piece of land which was occupied by a man who refused to vacate it… farmer by profession the old man wanted to use it to meet his own living… since the man refused to vacate the old man thought of approachin the authorities for the same…. I don’t know wht he may have felt in his heart whn he was told by the local police to either take some money or forget the land as he was so old n unnecessaraily he may take up enemity with the ruffian…. He then decided to go to court…. His advocate told him to settle the matter outside as the court may take years to give a verdict and he may lose the land in the process or die…. I tried to place myself in his shoes n gave it a thought…. Was this the freedom I fought for???? Was this for I went to jail???? If I had known that the ‘new n free india’ would be like this then I may as well have enjoyed my life n not given it for the sake of ‘these people’…. I might as well have died of an heart attack hearing all this…. It was so pathetic to hear all this…. Wht respect are we giving to a person who dedicated all his life so that we would be ‘free’….
Well the old man did get his land back…. How??? Well a local politician helped him get the land back using ‘threat n power’!!!! not by legal means….
Does it mean that the legal system has gone to scrap…and you are ‘right’ only if u have power and money???

Look before you help....

Who doesn’t like to help a friend…. Everyone does…. If we like a person we always want to help out tht person whn they are sad… but then many a times in this over enthusiasm we tend to overdo n then instead of helpin out the person make him/her more irritated… there are many things which one may have to consider before helping out someone… wht exactly is the problem?? Does the person really want your help?? Sometimes the problem is a private one or the person may want to keep it private.. sometimes the person may not feel close to us though we may… some ppl like solving problems on their own n don’t want unnecessary interference from others… so there are many things to b considered before jumping in to help out someone, so that you don’t end up feelin exactly the way I felt whn I did it today…many a times I end up frustrated as I don’t want someones help n the person is hell bent upon helping out… but then sometimes one should know that even if momentarily we are hurt by this we should still knw that whtever was done was in good faith and it was done for us because….. the person ‘cares’….

a box full of roses....

(Hi Friends, today I would like to share a story with you. I don't remember where I read it but it really touched my heart. Hope you will like it too)

The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy." The man was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, "Don't you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside? The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, "Oh, Daddy, it's not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They're all for you, Daddy."The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness. Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses... from our children, family members, friends, and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than this.

Bro shoots sis...!!!!

Its been noticingly common nowadays to see siblings killing each other…. Its so shockin to hear these things….i mean how can rivallry among siblings go to such an extent tht they can take each others life… is it the power of money and property tht brain washes them to this level… I think its over ambitiousness or dissatisfaction… either of 2 extremes - to have everything and want more or have nothin and want something… self satisfaction, self control and peace of mind with whtever u have are important things which can easily prevet this… it good if u give but its great to give without expecting anythin in return…. Whn u expect returns there arises a chance of dissatisfaction which may act as a fuel to create a fire betn 2 persons…
Then I tried puttin myself in tht persons shoes… would I behave the same if my dad tommorow decides to give everything to my brother or more to him and less to me… hmmm…. I don’t think so…. Personally I believe myself to be satisfied with wht I have… with my education I can earn to satsify my n my families needs… I have learnt not to be over ambitious… even swapna who initially felt it was not good for me to be less ambitious, as she felt u need to dream big to achieve big, is now convinced that the stress got by being over ambitious is not worth the gains… well am not writing this as self praise but then writin this blog has given me immense satisfaction on a personal front… I believe I can have my peace of mind even if such a situation arises….and thts worth all the property and money…

old memories......

Dard main bhi who labh muskura jaate hain,
Beete lamhe jab bhi yad aate hai…

So very true…. Know wht… have u ever remembered some old thing in life esp whn the issue is bout an old crush or somethn like tht…. It sure brings out a smile on ur face or atleast in ur mind..right??? try doin tht…its fun…

Tricks patients play to reduce my fees….

Most common would be “aree rahul you have become so big…. I know your parents since last 20 yrs… you were so small…I used to take you around….your dad is the best doctor around…very considerate and generous…. You also become like him only…” in short you reduce your fee or rather don’t take the consulting charges and become ‘generous’ like dad…
Second trick would be “doctor sahib we are very old patients of your mom… she was the best ophthal around… we used to talk so much everytime we paid a visit to her… she was a family to us…” indicating that I should not take fees as I automatically become a family member…
Third one… “sir am from this area and am either a union member or a very important member of the area…everyone listens to me… after u operate on my mother/father then there are many patients waitin to get operated…ill get all of them here only…” so by showin me the greed of the ‘so called waitin patients I should reduce my surgery charges’… and usually after surgery the person doesn’t show up… maybe he lied or maybe he got angry that I didn’t reduce my charges…reason best known to him…
One fellow I still remember told me that he wanted to show his kids to me and they had stopped wearing spectacles after they broke as they didn’t have money…I felt sad n asked him to get them….n to my surprise whn these ‘poor’ kids entered my clinic they wear wearing the best of clothes…even I wouldn’t have worn such clothes in my childhood…being a little bit angry over myself for getting fooled I told my asst to take only half fees…but still the person disappeared frm that day…maybe angry…

After going home whn I think over all these things it amuses me…brings a smile on my face…and then feel maybe its Gods way of bringing a smile on my face….

Girl child...still a taboo in d 21st century

Its so depressin that still d girl child is considered a taboo even by the ‘so-called’ modern people… and its more depressing whn the mother herself considers it… she herself being a woman… maybe shes influenced by people around but still it really hurts whn the mothers face falls on coming to know that she has delivered a girl child… 2 cases in the last 2 wks I saw in my dads hosp really hurt me… a mother on post operative day refusing to even look at her female child let alone feed her…. The poor child was cryin of hunger… and the other lady saying ‘shee parat mulgich jhali’ on table whn informed tht she had a girl child… and to my surprise the husband wanted a TL(family planning procedure) done inspite of tht whereas the stupid idiot mother refusing it…. Even the next day the mother was in depression…. Just felt like putting a tight rap across her face…. It also puts me to shame whn a doctor colleague a radiologist does sex determination test for some extra money… where has the conscience of these ppl gone??? Don’t they feel the guilt inside while doing it very well knowing that if it turns out to be a female foetus then he would automatically be a party to the resulting killing of the female child… may these people including the sonologist rot in hell….

no name

Well I don’t exactly know wht headin I would give to this post… but it well could have been my last blog… born on 15 aug am a typical leo as most of them say… have that bit of ego in me which ofcourse no one has yet seen as I keep it under wraps… since I have started writin almost everyone has appreciated my writings… they ofcourse reflect a diff side of me as am always ‘not so serious’ in my daily life… but then a very imp person found them ‘not so interesting’ to the extent that even a comment wether good or bad was found unworthy to be given time for… that hurt!!!.. at tht point I thought wether anyone really likes my writings or they just say for the heck of it…. I lost all motivation to write… but then in the coming days I got some really good comments bout the writin and that brought back the inspiration in me… n then givin a thought well I have always found writin good for myself…I feel nice whn I write… n if at all even one person appreciates my writings n looks forward for more then that is good enough a motive for me to write….
So its DECIDED that am gonna write n write….for even that single person who likes it n if there are none then ill become selfish n write for myself!!!!! Hehehehe

how far to go for a frnd???

frndship is a wonderful thing.... its grt to have good frnds.... but then sometimes u wonder how much to do for a frnd...occassionally we tend to go grt places for frnds n then expect them to do the same.... they dont n then u feel bad... ya one can say tht dont expect in frndship but then think frm ur heart .... dont u really wish the person u like would like uwith the same intensity... so everyone tends to have certain expectations which whn not met result in dislike or arguments...n mostly such things if u got by percentage then are common betn frndship which involves a guy n a gal....esp after either of them gets married...betn boys good frnds can n most of time will go very far.... betn girls... hehehe vry rare to c very good frnds... usually some bitchin is involved...no am not discriminatin here...just my observations... maybe am wrong...still... also seen is tht whn u do too much for afrnd of the opp sex then many a times a doubt arises...(mostly its the girl or a frnd of the girl who doubts)....n these silly doubts tend to create problems in the relationship.... no its not tht i am writin this on my personal experience though i wont deny tht i didnt experience such things but recently i metan old frnd on orkut which made me remember some good old days n thts whn i thought bout this....
anyways u just have to learn to ignore all this n go ahead n do d best u can for ur frnd....

The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and ! women with the biggest ideas can be shot down
by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Showcasing death on tv....

Yday after my opd I came home n switched on d tv to catch up some news… all know how these news ppl give captions to their stories…. On aajtak it was ‘aakhri hasi’… I wondered wht it can be especially whn they were showin a person givin a press conference… and suddenly within seconds the man collapsed frm a heart attack while talking… he was dead on the spot… it sent down shivers down my spine… the last expression the person gave was terrifying…. During my whole medicine stint I had not seen a single person die on d spot… so it was just as chillin as for anyone else… n these vultures (news ppl) I call them vultures cos both are similar in some aspects… not that they fly high but they would wait upon a living being to die so that they can take advantage of it…these vultures try to make a story about it… makin a huge story bout it… showin the death in slow motion… showin it in different ways… bloody f…ers… I somehow just wonder how the conscience is absent in these ppl… couple of mths ago a kid fell in a sewer (and died later as his body was not found)…. These vultures came there n asked his mother who was crying inconsolably “aapko kaisa lag raha hai… aapko kya lagta hai kiski galti hai… kya prashasan zimmedar hai?” n some bloody politician commented “I will get justice for her…. Ill ask d govt to resign!!!!” at a time like this, is this wht the mother wanted for consolation????????
Am sorry that I had to use some very mild words in this blog as I thought usage of more very dirty words which I have in my mind for these vultures n politicians would not have been appropriate on this platform…

is this the SAME Rahul?????

After I have started writin my blogs the first question thts been asked by whosoever reads it is…….”is this written by u???? how can the Rahul we know write some serious topics like these????” And then comes “its good to know the other side of u…” now am starting to wonder am I like a coin with 2 sides???? Maybe theres truth to the Chinese saying that theres a Yin and Yang to everythin… maybe this is the serious side of the always not-so-serious Rahul…J

Even I wondered y I always write serious blogs decided to chek some other ppls blogs… well then I realized by their writings is tht whn writin a blog alone in ur free time we usually try to write something which we cannot discuss to freely with many ppl at the same time….some thoughts which keep lingering in ur mind and to which u looks for answers from others….

Anyways am rushing of to eat some nice roasted peanuts ….. remaining part later sometime….

God resides everywhere….

Where does God reside or rather where do we put up Gods picture…. Just ask urself this question in your mind… maybe u might think of places which are most auspicious or some part of the house which can be considered sacred or by vastu shastra…something like that…even I would do the same…
now this question arose whn I saw Gods picture in a chicken mutton shop… even the ppl who sell meat pray to God tht they might have a good business that day… now if one gives it a thought how do u think God would fulfil their wishes??? Everyone is Gods own creation His own children…humans and animals together… would He to please one child of his sacrifice 10 other children???? This one question intrigues me and one day am going to ask this question to a religious scholar or some Brahmin n hope to get a satisfactory answer….lets see……………..

Comments are most welcome…. They motivate me to write more….

Living a stress-free life in a stressful world….

Many a times I see myself surrounded in a very stressful world with people shouting groaning crying irritated angry…. So how can one live at peace in such a surrounding… thinking about it I tried to observe certain things to reduce the stress on myself… to a certain extent I have benefited a lot…thought I would share these and if I can reduce ur stress even by a bit then I would be very happy….

Be optimistic… always c the glass half full n not half empty
Learn to ignore small things which irritate u… (best one) ignorance is bliss
Try not to shout or get angry on anyone…. If u r getting irritated try to say a prayer, a mantra or a song u like… it will calm u down
Don’t be over ambitious… puts u on lot of stress
Try to spend as much time as poss with ur family instead of friends…. This has a long term effect…
Don’t complain to God for anything… for this best would be to go to a hospital and c how ppl suffer frm various life threatening diseases and then u would realize how lucky u r tht God has not put u in their shoes…
N last but not the least….SMILE… don’t ever let go of the smile on ur face… a frowning face attracts frowns… n a smiling face attracts smiles…………

Comments are most welcome…. They motivate me to write more…….

becomin a doc to serve ppl...???

During mbbs days when we are new to the profession n still in the learning stage many of used to atleast once think in their mind that we would serve the people generously…. After coming into practice I many times think about doing lots n lots of charity work…. But doing charity doesn’t come free…… I come across lots of poor ppl in my opd… some are really very poor n cant afford my opd fees… some cant afford medicines and surgeries… I try to do my level best for them… I can c them for free and even give them sample medicines… but whn it comes to surgeries I seriously get stuck about wht to do…. I recommend them to government or bmc hospitals but then even I want to operate free or at a mere 500 600 at the least, on them… but then am still new into practice and it isn’t tht am earning a real good amount where I can afford to do such charities… makes me feel guilty many a times whn I refuse a patient surgery due to their monetary constraint (and the guilt is more as most of the patients who need cataract surgeries are old and cute)…. I have to first try to secure a future for my family…. So unless n until I do that I cant spend that amt for charity… no.. no one can call me selfish…. Non medical ppl may tend to think so….. but then they too must try n understand us…. We just cant treat everyone for free…. And the situation these days is such tht if we treat one free then the word spreads and suddenly everyone wants free treatment… I conduct free checkup camps once a yr and become part of camps kept by others and at this stage I think am doing good enough for the society on my behalf…. But then the fact remains that someday I want to earn enough tht I can operate free on many needy patients and put a smile on the faces of my good OLD patients…J

Comments are most welcome…. They motivate me to write more….

giving an opinion...

Whtever happens makes us think was it right or wrong….who was at fault… usually we give the opinion as to wht we think is right…but then I feel tht before the opinion is given both sides should be considered or rather we should put ourselves in tht place n then give an opinion…. Sanjay dutt case – most of us would think ab jaane do yaar..chod do use… but then think wht must be goin in the mind of the person who has lost his child, his wife, his parents, his peer in the blast… wht must they be feelin… surely if I was in their place I would always want him to be hanged…. Many a time while consoling someone who we feel are cryin over a small reason…the worst thing to say is ‘jaane de yaar, hota hai’…. Well we should think if the same thing had happ with us then wht we may have thought… tht alistairs family the one who mowed down 3 4 ppl in bandra n then proved it was a car prob should be asked wht would they have done if some other alcohol laden person mowed down their child…

Wht I want to say thru this blog is tht once u start thinking about 2 sides or by keeping urself in the persons shoes n then opine then you will always give justice to ur opinions…. Try it…. You would never have a guilty mind after opining urself…. And if wht u decide is wht u feel cannot be accepted to others then just keep it to ur self… after all though speech is silver…..silence is golden…!!!!

ur comments are most welcome...they may motivate me to write more....

whom to do charity on??/

Patient comes to me for cataract surgery… asks me the cost… I tell him its more for imported lens n less for Indian lens… patient says am very very poor and wont be able to afford so kindly give concession… I say ok I will give u concession… patients asks imported lens main kitna kam hoga!!!!
Aaaargh… I mean first he says hes very very poor n then instead of considerin the cheaper option he still has the guts to ask me about the imported lens??? Wht concession should I give him???

who would b your role model??

2 persons…
one very generous…so generous that ppl occasionally suspect him… would go out of the way to help ppl… ppl praise him go hulla gulla bout his generosity… but then many ppl bcos of this tend to take undue advantage of him… whn he comes to know of this he loses his sleep over it…
second person clever and money minded…. No generosity but business… ppl crib lot bhd him for being so moneyminded … but its as if he doesn’t care… sleeps peacefully at night not caring much about others…

would u help???

Just read in a paper today about the stabbing of a girl 20 times by her lover in full public… newspapers, tv channels say mumbai has become a city of enuchs… but to give a thought everyone afterwards say tht they would have helped had they been at the incident… but would they really have??? Or would i really have??? I gave it a lot of thought… Common everyone has a family to support… before fallin in betn such fights one thinks wht would happen to their family incase somthin happens to him/ her… its not tht the people are cowards but then the love of ones family deters them from takin such steps… even I said tht inspite of so many ppl no one came forward to help…. But then mayb even I would have thought about swapna n ria before goin forward to help…

Solution??? Well whn many ppl are there if all raise a hue or cry or go forward as a grp then something might deter these anti social elements from takin a drastic step…. But then still the question remains who would take the first step!!!!!!!!

operatin on ur own....

well... i today performed a very simple procedure of probing and syringing on my princess right eye... under general anesthesia.... my hands were trembling like never before.... swapna was thr too n she was like rahul cool down.... but i just couldnt... i wanted to start n finish it off as soon as i could... tht was hell of an experience... in post graduate days i was known for singing while i operated....n today mornin... my mind was blocked out.... can never ever forget it...

losin ur cell.... bliss

i lost my cell last friday... ya my 18 grand cell... i was very dejected at first cos i had developd an attachment to it... also all the nos were in it.... but then slowly i realised tht i had a peace of mind without it... cos i didnt have to worry abou gettin or missin phone calls frm pateints then no more pickin those stupid promotional calls or marketin calls... ya suddenly after couple of days life was bliss... everyone was askin y arent u renewin ur card... but just couldnt share with them wht was goin in my mind n how my mind was smilin inside while outside i was with a dejected face tellin them tht i would surely renew it tomm... until friday whn i finally got the card renewed... n the first call i got was frm a insurance agent... aaaarrrrgh.... back to the routine again.... there goes my peace of mind.....

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
because it means you've made a difference.
It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those
who are also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,
and they can become your blessings.

finally...

finally seein a frnd do it i too created my blog........now the question is whn n wht am i goin to post!!!!